We had a moment in time,
When you thought I was fine,
So you made promises to me,
That you just couldn’t keep.
What happened between us was special,
You said we had something,
But that special something wasn’t cherished,
And now it’s gone dead and buried.
I now understand that you liked the way I made you feel,
But the way you felt for me wasn’t real.
You and I would’ve happened no matter what,
I wasn’t there because of what you said,
I had my own reasons for being there.
What I can’t understand is why you would lie,
I’ve never understood what you gained,
And you kept going and kept saying the same,
Thing over a period of time,
That I would be yours and you would be mine.
So now it’s not the same,
And I’m left wondering who’s to blame.
Are you wrong because you lied?
Or am I wrong because I tried?
Tried to get close and be a friend,
To a person who had no room in his life,
Because it was full with his family and wife.
When in need of a suit…..you are in need of Tom Ford.
Tom Ford we could say was the ‘unofficial’ designer for the 2013 Grammy’s.
His designs were worn by Tim McGraw, Rick Ross, Wiz Khalifa, and all class in “Suit & Tie”, Mr Justin Timberlake. And if that wasn’t accolade enough, he gets a lyrical mention in rap by Jay-Z in that long-awaited performance.
We constantly hear stories in the media of a celebrity or high profile person whose behavior has been deemed socially irresponsible, mostly by the media who are convinced that it’s their duty to have the celebrity face an unfair trial where judgement and scrutiny have already been highlighted.
The media justify their own actions by stating the same old tired myth that if you want to be famous then you must accept the responsibility of being a role model to our youth and the broader general public.
I become very irritated when I hear such statements made by the media. If the media want to make such claims, then it should be their responsibility to showcase our celebrities as role models. Instead they dish for scandals and spread the dirt like a plague knowing full well that our celebrities aren’t leading by example. Makes me wonder who is more irresponsible!
How are we influenced by these so called ‘role models’ when we can’t relate to them? Society would have us believe we are on opposite sides of the spectrum.
I always thought a role model was someone you look up to and aspire to be. How do you aspire to be like someone you don’t know?
I would have thought that a credible role model should be someone important and present in your life like your mother or father, grandparents, an aunt or uncle, a friend, a teacher or your neighbour. They can teach us so much. Why are we looking past them? Or maybe we haven’t. Maybe we have taken on board their teachings, however, not given them the recognition. They should be recognized as role models. You can also be a role model to yourself. We can have all the support, encouragement and love in the universe but without an iron will we cannot bring about change. And it is you and only you that can make that change for yourself.
Have we misunderstood the meaning of a role model? Perhaps we have it confused with admiration. You can be inspired, intrigued, mesmerized and fascinated even to the point of obsession by someone you don’t know. In most cases you are really inspired by that person’s creation or achievement but we tend to focus more on the individual then the achievement. I don’t know why that is. Nevertheless their influence has definitely played a role in your life but that does not make them worthy to be your role model.
I adore the Spring/Summer 2013 Collection by Gucci and in particular the jasmine green silk gown with flounce neckline. This gown exudes femininity and elegance. The column silhouette instructs you to stand tall and the silk flounce insists you hold your head up high. That can only make your spirit soar.
Sorry may seem to be the hardest word according to Elton John but I happen to know quite a few people who have no trouble delivering this word. In fact, it rolls off their tongue quite easily that I’m starting to wonder whether it’s become rationale for some, for their less desirable actions.
Sorry does not erase an action, nor does it take away the affect the action had on a person. Are we consciously choosing to tell that white lie, or dismissing someone whom we would usually take the time to talk to, but momentarily we have better things going on in our lives so we choose otherwise. We justify our post-behaviour only because we believe that should the result of our actions be a negative one, we can reverse it by verbalizing this word “sorry”. Have we trained our minds to willingly make errors because there is a counter action to neutralise the situation?
Let’s imagine for a moment that there is no word in the dictionary to express our compassion, sympathy or our feelings of regret. What then?
Therefore my advice would be that in that moment when you come to the realization that you are about to do something that makes you feel guilty or unkind, and you can foresee the adoption of this phrase….stop! Reassess your thinking and alter your behaviour to one that is gracious and amicable and does not result in the sorry speech.
We can’t tell another person how to behave or what to say but yet when they don’t behave or say what we expect we become disappointed. How can another person fulfill your expectations when they don’t know what you expect of them? Best not to waste your time on expectations and instead focus on mastering the art of acceptance.